A Two Stranded Rope

'A two stranded rope is not easily broken.'
A baby begins life by measuring his home and if could get the coordinates right he shall in his time get the whole world also right. In him are the values of his race, in terms of experience collated from the whole. Something of his species is inextricably linked to the way he shall set his sights about. His parents may be narrow in outlook; yet he has within the breadth of vision of the race to counter all such restraints of his immediate world. (In other words how he sets about reading is not isolated or narrow. He encompasses the unknown world before him, with clues already impressed within.) Common experience of his species is a kind of safety valve or a counterweight to everything that may go wrong in his immediate circumstances.
A tyrannical father may impose his will in his home. But a child who is alive to the life within shall learn to dissemble or roll with the punches and bide his time to escape into the wide open spaces with his wits intact. Another may be a rebel and hating every form of authority.
In a battle of wills parents are definitely at a disadvantage. So wisdom is to work with the children in order to give them wherewithal to maximize what capabilites are latent. Wanting to make them in their own image can only be waste of time.
Parents can only be a trustee and guardian to their offspring who are not merely there to fulfil their expectations but their own. Their strengths drawn from their parents are only in part. They also owe as individuals in their own right to make their way into the world: these shall be by use of whatever thy can make use of, both from their parents and from the whole.

benny